My Goal

My ultimate goal for my ministry is to let parents and grandparents know you can have joy again.  You will never get over your loss but you can move on one step at a time.  Often times it is said “one needs closure”.  I don’t completely understand that statement.  Your child is your child and if one loses a child you will never “close” that chapter of your life as they will always be a part of your family.  If you lost a child or grandchild I hope that my book will somehow help you heal.  My whole purpose of sharing my letter to Conner is to help others.  I feel great compassion for these parents and grandparents. 

You see, when a death of a child occurs, often times, many people find it difficult to console a family member or friend who has lost a child or grandchild.  The death of a child/grandchild is a subject that most people find very uncomfortable in talking with those grieving.   Family and friends don’t know what to say to the parent or grandparent that has lost a child so therefore they say nothing.  This is very understandable.  However, most times, all you need to do is just sit and listen, cry with or hug the parent who has lost a child or the grandparent who has lost a grandchild.  For the parent or grandparent sometimes they just need to talk out their feelings; sometimes they just want someone to show compassion.  No one really needs to give an answer because there are no “magic” answers.  In my letter to Conner, I express and share my every thought, pain, anger, confusion, and questions in hopes that it may help someone else.  Those who have lost a child/grandchild need to know that the feelings they are having are very natural.  This is why I decided to share my letter to Conner so maybe I can help others.  I buried two grandchildren. 

May God bless your life as He has mine.